The World according to John - my Blog

This is bound to stir up some discussion...

When I was a kid, I took being spiritual and being religious to be the same thing; they're not. I also thought psychics were weird people who talked to the dead; not necessarily (but there are some weird psychics out there) ... but, I digress.

Where I'm coming from, is this. There's a lot of misconception about what it is to be spiritual. When I started getting "into" this kind of work, people started asking me if I was a born-again Christian? Had I gone all religious? etc. The answer is "no" to both of those by the way.

I thought I could clarify a few things by looking up the definitions of Spiritual, Psychic and Religion on the Internet; and we all know that if it's on the Internet it's got to be true. The problem is, true or not, different resources can't seem to make up their respective minds on what these terms actually mean; and that's half the problem. When the academics can't agree, there's not much hope for us lesser mortals.

“The world according to John”, March 2019

You know what they say... "Never assume". Well, I always assumed that impervious was a run-of-the-mill English word that every (native-speaker) knew and understood. Well, I was wrong.

One of my "favourite" ThetaHealing downloads is:

I live my day-to-day life impervious to the negative thoughts and actions of others.

Which is actually a really good, really powerful download, provided you know what impervious means!

People don't have negative beliefs.

At first, that might sound a bit odd, because people believe all sorts of things, and sometimes they're not very helpful or constructive. So why don't they let them go? Because, we don't have NEGATIVE beliefs, in some way, by some means, the belief (whatever it might be) serves us in some POSITIVE manner.

My role as a ThetaHealer is to help you find out what that positive aspect is, and if you want to, help you let go of it. It sounds quite straightforward, and a lot of the time it is, you just need to figure out what you're getting out of the situation and what you're learning from it.

I had a new client contact me the other day, and almost the first thing she asked was:

How many sessions will it take?

That was an interesting question, because at that point she hadn't even told me why she wanted to have a session with me. This actually raises a number of issues, and I thought it'd make an interesting topic for my blog.

Perspective (1): "I help people heal, I don't create customers."

In a "conventional" business, the sales team will work hard to gain new clents, and keep them. Once they have a client onboard it is a lot easier to sell them things in future.

I was wondering what to write for this blog-post, and chewed over trust, love, faith, etc., then I realised that all of those should probably be tempered with a good amount of discernment, so I thought I'd write about that instead.

So what's the big deal about discernment? Maybe it's easier to talk about what could happen WITHOUT it.

What would happen if you trusted everyone?

What would happen if you loved everyone?

Clichés ... Don't you love 'em!

I could go on and on about things like shedding yourself of "emotional baggage", but most people will just switch-off because they've heard it all before. So, instead, I thought I'd briefly share my personal story and how healing has helped me.

Before

I used to be a real "worry monger" and would get stressed about the smallest things. I was also very much a home-bird (which I think is very much a British mindset) and I NEEDED to own my own home and have "stuff" around me to feel secure. I'm not entirely sure where that came from, but it may be a result of the immediate post-WWII "baby boomer" generation.

Before, and during the war, people didn't tend to have a lot of possessions and made a big deal out of smaller things. Me getting a secondhand bicycle for a birthday present was a big deal for me (and my parents). Actually, I think if some of this attitude was brought into the present, a lot of this "entitlement" attitude would disappear.

When I started working in London, I bought a (very) small house about 20 miles south of the city and filled it with my "stuff". In hindsight, this was probably filling a need that I hadn't recognised or acknowledged at that point.

Do you take on other people's "stuff"? Most people do. Never underestimate the power of many voices, or even one. It is all too easy to accept what other people have to say, even to the point of disbelieving your own point of view.

One aspect of becoming more spiritually "aware" is that you become more empathic towards others - that is kind-of the whole point. But if you're not careful, you can also start taking on the other person's negative opinions, attitudes and thoughts.

Boats don’t sink because of the water around them; boats sink because of the water that gets in them. Don’t let what’s happening around you get inside you and weigh you down.

You have to remember that people who come for healings will have an issue they want to work on. When was the last time someone went to a healer (or an allopathic doctor for that matter) and said "I feel great, I just thought I'd come and tell you!"? It just doesn't happen. You don't even have to be a healer to want to protect yourself from their negativity. One of my favourite "go to" ThetaHealing downloads is this one:

I guess that depends on where you are now, and where you PERCEIVE you'll end up.

It is actually quite normal to be fearful of change because people fear the unknown. It doesn't necessarily make you a "control freak", but (many) people like the comfort of knowing what's going to happen when they get up in the morning. But what if you don't like where you are now? You could get stuck between a rock and a hard place (to coin a phrase); you don't like where you are now, but you are fearful where you could go.

ThetaHealing is very good at identifying fears that block you, but from a simplistic level:

One of the key tenets of ThetaHealing is being able to manifest. EVERYONE can manifest, but how effectively and WHAT they manifest varies a lot.

In "The Secret", Rhonda Byrne explains that whatever we put out, (or put another way) whatever we focus on, THAT'S what you'll attract. If you keep moaning about how miserable a day it is, you're going to have a miserable day. However if you choose to focus on the good parts, you'll notice and attract more of the good (even if there is still not-so-good stuff going on too). "The Secret" is just another way of looking at manifesting

First off, you probably want to look at any worthiness issues you may have. If you don't feel you're worthy of attaining something it probably isn't going to happen.

Then you need to decide what it is that you actually want - and that's not as easy as you might think. Explore what would happen if you got it. An example I use sometimes is if you want horses, who's going to look after them if you go on holiday? Think about what you want, what you need to make it happen, whether you need help, etc.

I had a VERY interesting session with a client the other day who had recently finished chemo' and radiotherapy.

The client was saying that she had lower back pain. When I did a body-scan of her, I detected what I described as a "Tasmanian Devil energy" at the base of her spine.

When I started digging on her, it became apparent that she believed that it was the radiotherapy that was keeping her healthy - if she got rid of the residual radiation she feared the cancer might return. After doing some belief work on her and downloading that she was safe and healthy and didn't need it any more, I got an awareness that the "energy" didn't agree. Once I downloaded to it that the client didn't need it any more, it was happy to leave, but prior to that, the energy had the awareness that the client needed it and therefore it was staying in her body.

It had never previously occurred to me that residual radiation would have a consciousness of its own, and I was not just dealing with the client but also the radiation.

Many (spiritual) people tend to get bogged down with what they perceive to be past-life experiences, and end up re-living those past lives to the detriment of the present. We are here and now, in this world, in this body, and dwelling on the past is largely a waste of time and energy.

If you really want to get to the bottom of it, ask these questions:

• How does recalling this past life serve me?
• What am I learning from it?

In a previous blog post, I mentioned that we don't actually have "negative" beliefs, instead every belief we have, or experience we're going through, serves us in some way, and I believe, finding what that is is the key to understanding a situation. Once you understand the reason, you can choose to let it go, but if it still serves you, you may not want to.

Why are you even being made aware of these past-lives? In my experience, people often only become aware of these past-life experiences as they develop spiritually, and sometimes this can be overwhelming for them. However, if you choose to look at it slightly differently, perhaps this can ease your burden:

I admit that's a bit of a loaded-question, but I just spent an enjoyable weekend at the Hamilton Natural Health Expo. It was the first time I was "flying solo" as a healer in my own right (as opposed to sharing a stand) and it was interesting to observe some quite significant (from my perspective) changes from previous years.

Over the two days I spoke to about 3 or 4 women, but ALL THE OTHER PEOPLE WHO CAME TO MY STAND WERE MEN. Now I was half expecting there to be a few more men than usual (men finding it easier to talk to men, etc.), but not as many as I saw. You often see men come along with their partner who are obviously just there "because". This year was different, and I spoke to other stallholders who said the same thing; there were a significant number of men there on their own; and they were genuinely interested in what was going on.

I have taught classes of all men in the past, and it tends to be a very different dynamic to a class of women. Neither better nor worse, just different.

As a male, I enjoyed John's teaching style, humour, self-awareness - and in a class full of men. It helped me find resonance between the ideas of Theta' and my own particularily male/masculine personality.

That's a good question; so why DON'T we let go of negative beliefs? Surely if a belief is negative and holding us back, we'd want to let it go; I know I would. The "trick" is realising that our subconscious is holding on to it because in some way it is serving us, and quite often that means it is keeping us safe. Maybe in the past we've been hurt in one way or another and by not allowing the situation to happen again, we won't be hurt again.

So you need to identify the "positive" thing you are learning from this "negative" situation.

When a person has been through a traumatic situation it can be a bit of a "bitter pill to swallow" to ask them what they are learning from the situation, or why they are choosing to hold on to it, but once they do acknowledge it they can move forward.

This is also why you cannot just pull all negative beliefs - your subconscious doesn't hold on to negative beliefs only positive ones. In ThetaHealing we use a technique called digging to identify a person's beliefs - and they're quite often something quite unexpected - otherwise they'd probably have figured it out before!

Over the last week or so, I was pondering what the topic of my next blog post would be. I have been a bit "quiet" lately because amongst other things, I have been moving house.

In the last week, I have seen quite a few posts on social media around change, and I took this as a sign that I should share my thoughts and perspective on change.

I rather like this quote (which is sometimes attributed to Albert Einstein, though there's little evidence he actually said it - and it has also been attributed to Ben Franklin and Mark Twain):

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

"OK", I hear you say, "He did a post on manifesting only a few weeks back!".

But this one is a bit different.

One of the "gotchas" with manifesting is not being so specific that you hinder the universe coming up with something for you.

For instance: "I want a white house with a red door overlooking the ocean with fields all around." What if your ideal house had a blue door? But that's not what you asked for.

I was talking to someone the other day and they said they didn't need to go on the Theta' course "You and Your Significant Partner". Then I told them what was covered and they said "I do need to go on You and Your Significant Partner ... and so does he!".

It really is a great course and covers a lot of topics around blending families, establishing roles, etc.

Does your partner get on your nerves?

Do they do things that drive you up the wall??

When you're doing a session with a client, to get to the bottom of a fear you often ask: "And what's the worst thing about that?" and they may come back with: "I'll die."

Now at first, that sounds pretty bad, hey, you're dead, but keep asking the same question: "And what's the worst thing about that?"

That will make them think.

Now I haven't passed over and returned, so I have no actual experience of this, but a lot of the time the act of passing over is either a release from chronic illness or quick. It turns out that a lot of people don't actually fear the process of dying itself, what they fear is what they'll miss out on when they've gone, which is often missing time with their loved ones.

noun

The ability to judge well.

synonyms: judgement, taste, discrimination, refinement, cultivation, sophistication, enlightenment, sensitivity, subtlety; insight, perceptiveness, perception

People waste a HUGE amount of time holding on to Resentments, Rejections and Regrets.

In my experience, pretty much everyone has atleast one of them, I know I did. The thing is, with ThetaHealing they're so easy to get rid of.

I'll give you an example...

I was about 20 when I got my first job in an office in London. There was a young girl there and we'd say "Hi" when we passed each other in the corridor. We were friends. Then one day, as she passed me she said "Don't wish me a happy birthday then!". I don't know why, but I replied "OK, I won't.". WHAT A STUPID, JUVENILE THING TO SAY. It was her birthday for goodness sake, and I was spiteful to her. Not that you should be rude to people the other 364 days of the year either!