John Oxlade
ThetaHealing Certificate of Science Master practitioner and teacher

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Do you know how to differentiate what you WANT versus what you NEED?

BalanceIt's probably our ego or will that says "I WANT THIS", but wants and needs are often confused. I am not saying that as you become more spiritual you'll want for less, but you will probably be able to differentiate between what you want versus what you need.

And it's OK to want stuff. We work hard and a few treats are perfectly normal, but apart from a roof over our heads, and food on our plate, probably about the only thing we need as beings is LOVE.

So how can you tell the difference between a want and a need?

It can be difficult to dowse for something like this as your ego will get in the way. However, using the manifesting method of digging in ThetaHealing, you can get a good idea of what would happen if you had what you wanted.

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What is Divine Timing?

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"Divine Timing" is a ThetaHealing term for what might be called someone's destiny. A person can have multiple Divine Timings, for instance to help disabled children, but that may not be their only purpose in life.

Regardless of what you call it, I have found that sometimes things are just too hard - like herding cats, or pushing water uphill. It is so much easier to "go with the flow" - when things happening smoothly and without any real effort. Have you ever experienced that you push and push to make something happen, then when you ease off, something better comes along?

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Comparing Carl Jung’s “Personal Shadow” theory to ThetaHealing

Carl JungDISCLAIMER: Firstly, I would like to state that I am not a trained psychologist. I was pondering a topic for my BLOG post and a friend suggested “Shadow Work”. This wasn’t a phrase I had heard before, so a quick Google brought up an article by Scott Geoffrey “A Definitive Guide to Jungian Shadow Work: How to Get to Know and Integrate Your Dark Side”. Reading this, I found distinct correlations with Jung’s ideas and ThetaHealing – a subject I am qualified to discuss. I recommend reading the article in full. It is an easy read and full of great information.

“The shadow is a psychological term for everything we can’t see in ourselves.” Scott Geoffrey.

From a ThetaHealing perspective, the client DOES have to acknowledge there are things they’d like to change. As a ThetaHealing practitioner, I must have the client’s permission to work with them. What brings about this acceptance of change is often a resignation that “my life must change”, or a frustration with conventional medicine and/or therapy. I guess that’s where psychology and healing could go head-to-head.

ThetaHealing is all about beliefs, and how those beliefs serve us in some way. We have the tools to delve into these beliefs and where appropriate to deconstruct and reconstruct them for a more positive outcome for the client.

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What's your lockdown coping-strategy?

Lockdown coping strategiesHere we are (in New Zealand) two weeks in to our self-isolation / lockdown, and I will admit I had a tough day a few days back. It got me thinking:

What's my coping strategy?

We're all different, and extroverts in particular will likely be having a tough time isolating themselves from their friends and family. I'm a bit of an introvert and am content with my own company, but even so, it's not easy.

We have to remember, and yes, we HAVE to remember, that this is for ours and everyone else's health and safety to slow down the spread of the virus. Will we ever actually eradicate it? Will we ever be able to have uninhibited travel wherever and whenever we want? Frankly I doubt it.

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I used to suffer from Migraine ... Now I don't

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What follows is my own, personal, case-study. I am not saying that what worked for me will work for you. I do not recommend coming off of any medication prescribed by your doctor. However, I do recommend that you educate yourself on alternatives and use your own due-diligence and maybe take that information to your doctor for his advice.

If there's one motto that suits Migraine it's probably "One size does NOT fit all". There are numerous different types of migraine such as: Hemiplegic Migraine, Retinal Migraine, Ice Pick Headaches, Cluster Headaches and more (see American Migraine Foundation), and different migraines respond differently to different treatments.

But surely prevention is better than cure any day.

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Which computer is more powerful?

Summit supercomputer versus brain

If you've read my bio', you'll know that I come from an IT background. That's long gone now, but technology still interests me. "Back in the day", a company called CRAY used to make the fastest supercomputers in the world. They're still pretty powerful, but as I write this, IBM's SUMMIT supercomputer is by far the most powerful computer out there.

To show you how far things have come, an Intel Core i9 "Extreme Edition" processor (not unusual in higher-end PCs) is 6,000 times faster than a Cray-1 supercomputer from 1976; and technology marches on, so we can expect our PCs to get faster still. The Core i9 can accomplish a trillion computational operations every second (1). However, IBM's SUMMIT is 200,000 times faster! (2)

So what?

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Having fun with muscle-testing


Muscle testing holding a bookIn ThetaHealing we use muscle-testing to get yes/no responses from your body around beliefs. This is basic stuff taught right at the beginning of your ThetaHealing journey.

It's important to remember that muscle-testing confirms what you BELIEVE to be true, not absolute FACT. So if someone muscle-tests "yes" for "the world is coming to an end", it doesn't necessarily mean it WILL, but they BELIEVE it will; which is actually more relevant, and you can deal with their beliefs.

So, when you start out, you ground and centre your client, and get them to hold their fingers together (body-dowsing works too if they prefer that).

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TIME ... it's an interesting concept

This was originally written for my Jan 2020 newsletter, but I thought I'd share it here too (slightly edited).


Warped clockI don't know if any of you are involved with newsletters or similar, but having to come up with something new every day, week, month, etc., but it can be a bit of a struggle sometimes...

  • What's topical?
  • What do people want to read about?
  • Will they read it??

So I sat down in front of my PC with little idea of what to write, and just like that, "TIME" popped into my head. But what to say about it?

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You don’t know what you’ll get out of it until you try

Getting back to natureThe expression “You don’t know what you’ll get out of it until you try” can be equally applied to studying different spiritual techniques as it can to traveling to different countries and experiencing their cultures.

To extend the analogy, “Travel broadens the mind”, and so does working on yourself and letting go of old patterns and habits that no longer serve you; and I can guarantee that even if you’re not aware of them, you’ll have some traits that aren’t working for your highest and best.

The different spiritual techniques out there; such as Reiki, NLP, Access, etc., all strive to achieve the same result … to enable you to be the best you can be. Not all resonate with everyone, but personally, I found that ThetaHealing was the technique that appealed to, and helped, me the most.

ThetaHealing is not aligned to a specific religion … provided you believe in something it doesn’t matter what that is. In my case, I was not brought up under any religion, though if anything, I was brought up under the tenets of Christianity; “love thy neighbour”, “do unto others as you would have them do to you”, etc.

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What is the link between a Volkswagen car, Great Britain and France (from a ThetaHealing perspective)?



In ThetaHealing we learn that certain emotions and feelings can hold certain ailments within the body. So, for instance, if someone has an on-going bacterial infection, it is possible this is related to an unresolved issue(s) around guilt, fungal infections can be held in the body by resentment, and viruses can manifest as worthiness issues. However, if you're new to Theta', this can be tricky to remember, so I came up with this little "graphic" to help people remember them.

If you can remember the British and French (*) bumper stickers, and the Volkswagen Beetle, you have all you need to know...

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The power of forgiveness

Forgiveness is not about letting the 'bad guy' off the hook,

It's about taking the hook out of your own heart.

In my experience, resentment, rejection, regret and grudges come up a lot in sessions with clients. Oftentimes, people are deeply hurt, especially when the issue is with a relative or loved one.

People often say "I can never forgive them", but all the time you hold on to that anger it quietly eats away at you. If you can forgive someone (and that is not the same as forgetting), you can release all of the negative energy that you hold inside and move forward. Forgiveness is something that is taught early on in ThetaHealing and is an incredibly powerful tool.

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Take time to appreciate the small things

When was the last time you just stopped and took time to appreciate the small things in life?

There's been some significant changes in my life in recent years, and I have become more and more aware of the little things in life such as the scenery around me, trees, the weather etc. I made a promise to myself to get out with the camera more often and just photograph the world around me. It's been a lot "easier" because I recently moved to a beautiful part of New Zealand, so I decided to take some time-lapse photos of exactly the same spot over several weeks.

As I sit here typing this post, I can look out of the window and see how the cloud is hanging on the tops of the hill, I can hear the birds singing and see the cows grazing in the field. My partner has lived here for 16 years but she says it is wonderful to see it all as if "new" through my eyes.

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How quickly should you expect results from a session?

how longI was chatting with a friend yesterday and the subject of how quickly you should expect results from a session came up (not necessarily ThetaHealing).

First off, you shouldn't expect specific results. It's funny how people will go to a GP (doctor) and accept that medication may not work and may need to be changed, but they get upset when they go to see a complementary therapist and don't get the outcome they want.

I tell my students time and again: "If you think you know at the outset of a ThetaHealing session where it's going ... You're probably wrong". The underlying issue or cause of a lot of ailments isn't always obvious, even in the conventional medical world. e.g. A stiff neck can give you a headache, or a painful hip causes backache. I often find that the underlying belief that crops up in a Theta' session is quite different from the visible symptom or habit. That said, there's a number of traits that turn up regularly such as resentment, regret or trust issues.

What I have noticed is that a Theta' session can go one of several ways:

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Parasites and parasitical people


noun: parasite; plural noun: parasites
an organism that lives in or on an organism of another species (its host) and benefits by deriving nutrients at the other's expense.

I was trying to find a suitable image to make this post "interesting" and almost put myself off my lunch. Anyway..., we've all got parasites in us, on us and around us; it's just a fact of life. In fact, by some counts there might be around 650,000 different types of parasite associated with humans. We can pick these up through the food we eat and walking bare foot on the ground. Parasites drain our energy and food and some of the early indications are that the host becomes thin, will feel hungry all the time, but because the body thinks it is starving, it may actually hold on to fat reserves making the host gain weight.

From a ThetaHealing-perspective, people with parasites are influenced on more than a physical level:

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Negative spirits and how to shift them


Aura cleansing negative entityOftentimes, when starting out in ThetaHealing, people can be fearful of the "negative stuff", and a lot of this fear originated from the church telling people about demons, damnation, etc., and even if you don't necessarily believe it NOW, our predecessors often did. I try to "make light" of that section in the (introduction to) ThetaHealing book because it isn't really anything to fear, and waywards in particular are REALLY easy to send to the light.

If someone does get an attachment, they can feel totally overwhelmed, and although it is easy enough to rid yourself of an entity, often their energy will: (i) mask itself so you're not aware it's there; or (ii) make you believe that you can't shift it. And this is exactly what happened to someone I know yesterday.

The first indicator was: "I am not feeling myself". Now I know it sounds strange, but if you're not feeling yourself, WHO ARE YOU? Using ThetaHealing you can muscle-test around this one:

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I gain my ThetaHealing Certificate of Science

IMG 8838 smallIt has taken a few weeks, but I can now announce that I attained my ThetaHealing Certificate of Science in Montana last month.

This was a major, personal achievement and took a lot of time, personal reflection and work.

As Vianna said at the beginning of the DNA3 instructor's class (the last piece of the Certificate of Science "puzzle"), EVERYTHING up to that point is about personal clearing, growth and development. In DNA3 you start working on the planet, and as Vianna says, "DNA3 is your survivial kit for the world we live in".

I have undergone huge personal shifts and growth as I have progressed through the practitioners, then the instructors classes (where the clearing goes to an even deeper level). In fact, I doubt I would recognise myself if I could go back 5 years and see the me of 2019 looking back through the mirror. I'm enjoying life, I don't let the "small things" bother me, and what's better still, I can help others do the same.

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Ever wonder what would happen if you got everything you wanted?

GenieAndLampI quite often here people say that they never get what they want, or their manifestations aren't working. I believe that one contributing factor in this is that they haven't consciously thought through what would happen if they DID get what they wanted. It may well then be a case that their subconscious mind has thought it through and is throwing up "no, no, don't do it!" messages.

I accept that the following are rather "contrived" scanarios, but let's look at some things that could block you from manifesting:

I want to win the lottery. But if I do, all these people I hardly know will want to be my friends and expect a handout - and I don't want to do that.

A: But if you won even more than you expected, then you could afford to give them something and still have enough for yourself.

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Why don't I see things the same way everyone else does?

This is one of the most common things people say to me when I teach the ThetaHealing® Basic class. Either that, or "I'm not seeing anything"...

We all experience things differently - we just do. If you think about it, we've spent all our lives fine-tuning the way we see, touch, smell, taste and hear things around us, but many people haven't spent much time fine-tuning their intuition and visualisation; these are skills that we start to work on in the Basic class. Here's a good one for you...

What colour is beige?

man plugged in1 300x225Even Wikipedia can't decide: "Beige is variously described as a pale sandy fawn color, a grayish tan, a light-grayish yellowish brown, or a pale to grayish yellow. It takes its name from French, where the word originally meant natural wool that has been neither bleached nor dyed, and hence also the color of natural wool." But you know what beige is (to you) when you see it.

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Spiritual v Psychic v Religious ... Let's discuss

Spiritual Psychic ReligiousThis is bound to stir up some discussion...

When I was a kid, I took being spiritual and being religious to be the same thing; they're not. I also thought psychics were weird people who talked to the dead; not necessarily (but there are some weird psychics out there) ... but, I digress.

Where I'm coming from, is this. There's a lot of misconception about what it is to be spiritual. When I started getting "into" this kind of work, people started asking me if I was a born-again Christian? Had I gone all religious? etc. The answer is "no" to both of those by the way.

I thought I could clarify a few things by looking up the definitions of Spiritual, Psychic and Religion on the Internet; and we all know that if it's on the Internet it's got to be true. The problem is, true or not, different resources can't seem to make up their respective minds on what these terms actually mean; and that's half the problem. When the academics can't agree, there's not much hope for us lesser mortals.

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Do you know what it is to be impervious to negativity?

You know what they say... "Never assume". Well, I always assumed that impervious was a run-of-the-mill English word that every (native-speaker) knew and understood. Well, I was wrong.

One of my "favourite" ThetaHealing downloads is:

I live my day-to-day life impervious to the negative thoughts and actions of others.

imperviousWhich is actually a really good, really powerful download, provided you know what impervious means!

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What are you getting out of holding on to it?

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People don't have negative beliefs.

At first, that might sound a bit odd, because people believe all sorts of things, and sometimes they're not very helpful or constructive. So why don't they let them go? Because, we don't have NEGATIVE beliefs, in some way, by some means, the belief (whatever it might be) serves us in some POSITIVE manner.

My role as a ThetaHealer is to help you find out what that positive aspect is, and if you want to, help you let go of it. It sounds quite straightforward, and a lot of the time it is, you just need to figure out what you're getting out of the situation and what you're learning from it.

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How many sessions will it take?

I help people heal

I had a new client contact me the other day, and almost the first thing she asked was:

How many sessions will it take?

That was an interesting question, because at that point she hadn't even told me why she wanted to have a session with me. This actually raises a number of issues, and I thought it'd make an interesting topic for my blog.

Perspective (1): "I help people heal, I don't create customers."

In a "conventional" business, the sales team will work hard to gain new clents, and keep them. Once they have a client onboard it is a lot easier to sell them things in future.

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Discernment - the ability to judge well

fork in roadI was wondering what to write for this blog-post, and chewed over trust, love, faith, etc., then I realised that all of those should probably be tempered with a good amount of discernment, so I thought I'd write about that instead.

So what's the big deal about discernment? Maybe it's easier to talk about what could happen WITHOUT it.

What would happen if you trusted everyone?

What would happen if you loved everyone?

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John's story and becoming a healer

Emotional BaggageClichés ... Don't you love 'em!

I could go on and on about things like shedding yourself of "emotional baggage", but most people will just switch-off because they've heard it all before. So, instead, I thought I'd briefly share my personal story and how healing has helped me.


I used to be a real "worry monger" and would get stressed about the smallest things. I was also very much a home-bird (which I think is very much a British mindset) and I NEEDED to own my own home and have "stuff" around me to feel secure. I'm not entirely sure where that came from, but it may be a result of the immediate post-WWII "baby boomer" generation.

Before, and during the war, people didn't tend to have a lot of possessions and made a big deal out of smaller things. Me getting a secondhand bicycle for a birthday present was a big deal for me (and my parents). Actually, I think if some of this attitude was brought into the present, a lot of this "entitlement" attitude would disappear.

When I started working in London, I bought a (very) small house about 20 miles south of the city and filled it with my "stuff". In hindsight, this was probably filling a need that I hadn't recognised or acknowledged at that point.

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Keep your boat afloat

Sinking boatDo you take on other people's "stuff"? Most people do. Never underestimate the power of many voices, or even one. It is all too easy to accept what other people have to say, even to the point of disbelieving your own point of view.

One aspect of becoming more spiritually "aware" is that you become more empathic towards others - that is kind-of the whole point. But if you're not careful, you can also start taking on the other person's negative opinions, attitudes and thoughts.

Boats don’t sink because of the water around them; boats sink because of the water that gets in them. Don’t let what’s happening around you get inside you and weigh you down.

You have to remember that people who come for healings will have an issue they want to work on. When was the last time someone went to a healer (or a doctor for that matter) and said "I feel great, I just thought I'd come and tell you!"? It just doesn't happen. You don't even have to be a healer to want to protect yourself from their negativity. One of my favourite "go to" ThetaHealing downloads is this one:

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Is change good or bad?

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I guess that depends on where you are now, and where you PERCEIVE you'll end up.

It is actually quite normal to be fearful of change because people fear the unknown. It doesn't necessarily make you a "control freak", but (many) people like the comfort of knowing what's going to happen when they get up in the morning. But what if you don't like where you are now? You could get stuck between a rock and a hard place (to coin a phrase); you don't like where you are now, but you are fearful where you could go.

ThetaHealing is very good at identifying fears that block you, but from a simplistic level:

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You manifest what you dwell on, so dwell on the good

ThinkPositiveOne of the key tenets of ThetaHealing is being able to manifest. EVERYONE can manifest, but how effectively and WHAT they manifest varies a lot.

In "The Secret", Rhonda Byrne explains that whatever we put out, (or put another way) whatever we focus on, THAT'S what you'll attract. If you keep moaning about how miserable a day it is, you're going to have a miserable day. However if you choose to focus on the good parts, you'll notice and attract more of the good (even if there is still not-so-good stuff going on too). "The Secret" is just another way of looking at manifesting

First off, you probably want to look at any worthiness issues you may have. If you don't feel you're worthy of attaining something it probably isn't going to happen.

Then you need to decide what it is that you actually want - and that's not as easy as you might think. Explore what would happen if you got it. An example I use sometimes is if you want horses, who's going to look after them if you go on holiday? Think about what you want, what you need to make it happen, whether you need help, etc.

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Does residual radiotherapy have a consciousness?

CautionRadiationI had a VERY interesting session with a client the other day who had recently finished chemo' and radiotherapy.

The client was saying that she had lower back pain. When I did a body-scan of her, I detected what I described as a "Tasmanian Devil energy" at the base of her spine.

When I started digging on her, it became apparent that she believed that it was the radiotherapy that was keeping her healthy - if she got rid of the residual radiation she feared the cancer might return. After doing some belief work on her and downloading that she was safe and healthy and didn't need it any more, I got an awareness that the "energy" didn't agree. Once I downloaded to it that the client didn't need it any more, it was happy to leave, but prior to that, the energy had the awareness that the client needed it and therefore it was staying in her body.

It had never previously occurred to me that residual radiation would have a consciousness of its own, and I was not just dealing with the client but also the radiation.

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How do past lives serve you?

Past Life Memories of Children main 2 postMany (spiritual) people tend to get bogged down with what they perceive to be past-life experiences, and end up re-living those past lives to the detriment of the present. We are here and now, in this world, in this body, and dwelling on the past is largely a waste of time and energy.

If you really want to get to the bottom of it, ask these questions:

  • How does recalling this past life serve me?
  • What am I learning from it?

In a previous blog post, I mentioned that we don't actually have "negative" beliefs, instead every belief we have, or experience we're going through, serves us in some way, and I believe, finding what that is is the key to understanding a situation. Once you understand the reason, you can choose to let it go, but if it still serves you, you may not want to.

Why are you even being made aware of these past-lives? In my experience, people often only become aware of these past-life experiences as they develop spiritually, and sometimes this can be overwhelming for them. However, if you choose to look at it slightly differently, perhaps this can ease your burden:

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Are more men becoming interested in spirituality?

Spiritual menI admit that's a bit of a loaded-question, but I just spent an enjoyable weekend at the Hamilton Natural Health Expo. It was the first time I was "flying solo" as a healer in my own right (as opposed to sharing a stand) and it was interesting to observe some quite significant (from my perspective) changes from previous years.

Over the two days I spoke to about 3 or 4 women, but ALL THE OTHER PEOPLE WHO CAME TO MY STAND WERE MEN. Now I was half expecting there to be a few more men than usual (men finding it easier to talk to men, etc.), but not as many as I saw. You often see men come along with their partner who are obviously just there "because". This year was different, and I spoke to other stallholders who said the same thing; there were a significant number of men there on their own; and they were genuinely interested in what was going on.

I have taught classes of all men in the past, and it tends to be a very different dynamic to a class of women. Neither better nor worse, just different.

As a male, I enjoyed John's teaching style, humour, self-awareness - and in a class full of men. It helped me find resonance between the ideas of Theta' and my own particularily male/masculine personality.

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Why don't we just let go of our negative beliefs?

letting goThat's a good question; so why DON'T we let go of negative beliefs? Surely if a belief is negative and holding us back, we'd want to let it go; I know I would. The "trick" is realising that our subconscious is holding on to it because in some way it is serving us, and quite often that means it is keeping us safe. Maybe in the past we've been hurt in one way or another and by not allowing the situation to happen again, we won't be hurt again.

So you need to identify the "positive" thing you are learning from this "negative" situation.

When a person has been through a traumatic situation it can be a bit of a "bitter pill to swallow" to ask them what they are learning from the situation, or why they are choosing to hold on to it, but once they do acknowledge it they can move forward.

This is also why you cannot just pull all negative beliefs - your subconscious doesn't hold on to negative beliefs only positive ones. In ThetaHealing we use a technique called digging to identify a person's beliefs - and they're quite often something quite unexpected - otherwise they'd probably have figured it out before!

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Change ... good or bad?

IMG 5545Over the last week or so, I was pondering what the topic of my next blog post would be. I have been a bit "quiet" lately because amongst other things, I have been moving house.

In the last week, I have seen quite a few posts on social media around change, and I took this as a sign that I should share my thoughts and perspective on change.

I rather like this quote (which is sometimes attributed to Albert Einstein, though there's little evidence he actually said it - and it has also been attributed to Ben Franklin and Mark Twain):

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

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Being open to possibilities

Infinite Possibilities"OK", I hear you say, "He did a post on manifesting only a few weeks back!".

But this one is a bit different.

One of the "gotchas" with manifesting is not being so specific that you hinder the universe coming up with something for you.

For instance: "I want a white house with a red door overlooking the ocean with fields all around." What if your ideal house had a blue door? But that's not what you asked for.

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Couple arguingI was talking to someone the other day and they said they didn't need to go on the Theta' course "You and Your Significant Partner". Then I told them what was covered and they said "I do need to go on You and Your Significant Partner ... and so does he!".

It really is a great course and covers a lot of topics around blending families, establishing roles, etc.

Does your partner get on your nerves?

Do they do things that drive you up the wall??

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What's worse than dying?

DyingBirdWhen you're doing a session with a client, to get to the bottom of a fear you often ask: "And what's the worst thing about that?" and they may come back with: "I'll die."

Now at first, that sounds pretty bad, hey, you're dead, but keep asking the same question: "And what's the worst thing about that?"

That will make them think.

Now I haven't passed over and returned, so I have no actual experience of this, but a lot of the time the act of passing over is either a release from chronic illness or quick. It turns out that a lot of people don't actually fear the process of dying itself, what they fear is what they'll miss out on when they've gone, which is often missing time with their loved ones.

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The ability to judge well.

synonyms: judgement, taste, discrimination, refinement, cultivation, sophistication, enlightenment, sensitivity, subtlety; insight, perceptiveness, perception

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Let go of your Resentments, Rejections and Regrets

The 3RsPeople waste a HUGE amount of time holding on to Resentments, Rejections and Regrets.

In my experience, pretty much everyone has atleast one of them, I know I did. The thing is, with ThetaHealing they're so easy to get rid of.

I'll give you an example...

I was about 20 when I got my first job in an office in London. There was a young girl there and we'd say "Hi" when we passed each other in the corridor. We were friends. Then one day, as she passed me she said "Don't wish me a happy birthday then!". I don't know why, but I replied "OK, I won't.". WHAT A STUPID, JUVENILE THING TO SAY. It was her birthday for goodness sake, and I was spiteful to her. Not that you should be rude to people the other 364 days of the year either!

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How not to say Not



When you’re doing a session with a client, it can sometimes be difficult to phrase a question without using something like “Not, Can't, Don't and Won't”. There are atleast two different ways to get around this:

“No” can be a perfectly acceptable answer to a question. For instance

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Why talking is important

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Have you ever noticed that when you need a friend they always say “Tell me about it”?

A lot of people spend years, maybe their entire lives NOT talking about something, but it can be really valuable to “get it off your chest”.

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Who is this God Person Anyway?

Creator smallThe title of this post is a shameless quote from Douglas Adams’ novel “The Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy”; one of my favourite books, but it does raise a good question, “Who is God?”

Now seeing as I was brought up in a non-religious family, that’s even more interesting, especially to me. It wasn’t until I was introduced to spirituality by my wife that I even gave it much thought.

In Christianity, God is often portrayed as a person, which then brings in the whole issue of gender; is God male or female? Does it matter?? Then the Bible has an interesting twist, because in Luke 17:21 (KJV – King James version) it says “The kingdom of God is within you”. Now I know that the bible has been interpreted hundreds, perhaps thousands of times in the last two thousand years, but how can the kingdom of God be within you – or me?

In ThetaHealing® ( - the technique I am most familiar with), we teach “going up to the seventh plane of existence (see below), to the Creator of All That Is”. This is a meditational technique to raise your awareness, it is not "up" like going up in a lift, it is more about going within but "raising" your vibration; not so easy to explain, but easy to do with practice. Once on the seventh plane of existence, you feel the energy of creation all around you.

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My thoughts about making more time

Warped timeDo you never seem to have enough time?

I will admit that I tend to put off things I want to do for myself (hobbies, etc.) until after I have wiped all the other tasks off the board. The problem is, the board is never going to be empty as there's always something to do.

It is very important to allocate time for yourself, so instead of trying to finish everything on the board BEFORE you have "me time", put the "me time" on the board too and allocate time to do it.

It sounds simple, but then perhaps it is supposed to be!

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